You’re convinced that once you lose those pesky five, ten or fifty kilos, Chris Hemsworth will land on your doorstep and the two of you will skip off into the sunset, eating Cheetos and be deliriously happy for evermore, right?
But is that really true? Does thin equal pretty?
Real women come in all shapes and sizes and every one of them is beautiful
These are real women. Short. Tall. Slim. Voluptuous. It’s all real and it’s all beautiful.
REALITY CHECK:
If you’ve ever eaten ice cream in your life you probably have cellulite. It’s ok. So do I.
If you’ve ever lost and gained weight a few times you probably have stretch marks. It’s ok. So do I.
Body not in perfect proportion? That’s cool. I’m the same.
The difference is I know that these features do not make me UGLY.
They make me UNIQUE.
Did you know that up to 98% of your thoughts are repetitive?
That means it’s the same stuff you thought yesterday and the day before that and the day before that.
“I’m fat”
“I’m ugly”
“Why don’t I look like her?”
“I hate my thighs/booty/stomach”
“I’ll NEVER lose weight”
It just NEVER STOPS! 😱
That Voice will play hard ball with you err time.
You’ve got to separate yourself from that Voice in your head. Bust it in the chops 👊 and think something good ON PURPOSE .
The Key to reaching & loving your natural weight?
Follow this one Golden Rule…
I was never one of “those” girls who could eat what ever she wanted and not gain weight.
I only had to sniff a donut and my butt would go into expansion mode, which is why I restricted and deprived myself of foods that I love for so many years.
On the outside I’d be all calm like, “Oh no, I don’t want that last slice of cake. You go ahead and have it” but then I’d binge later because:
A) OF COURSE I WANTED THE CAKE! ARE YOU INSANE? COULDN’T YOU SEE THE PLEADING IN MY EYES??!! and…
B) Once the cake was gone, I felt deprived and so I had to make up for missing out on said cake by eating two tubs of ice cream, four waffles and a box of dry cereal.
If you want chocolate, eat it 🍫
If you want cake, eat it 🍰
Bread? 🍞 Pizza? 🍕 Pasta? 🍝
Eat. Eat. Eat *(keep reading for the golden rule)
The more you tell yourself you CAN’T have it, the more you’ll want it so here’s my golden rule:
Golden Rule
Eat what you want, when you want it, in an amount that feels good to you and in your body.
That’s it. It’s no more complicated than that.
And remember, the only person who can change your life is you.
You’ve got what it takes.
Do you believe you’ll be happier when you’re thinner? Share your thoughts below and remember to share this post with a bestie for extra good karma and free chocolate muffins*
*subject to this not being a big lie. Which it totally is.
Big love!
Kylie
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Love your posts Kylie. Yes I do believe I will be happier thinner, but while I’m on the journey I think what I need to learn is to still be happy whilst I’m not there yet.
Oh Hollie! You are too, too beautiful!
And I can tell you that there are definitely things about being thinner that will make you happy, like feeling comfortable in clothes (I always felt most comfortable in trackpants when I was overweight. I never could figure out how to make them an acceptable form of attire for the office though lol!) and being able sit comfortably in chairs, but as for loving that gorgeous bod that you’re in? That’s an inside job
Sending you so much love!
K x
KYLIE, YOU ROCK!!! It’s like you’re inside my head! Thank you for speaking what we all think but are too afraid to say. You make me feel like I’m understood and not alone xxx
Hahaa! Oh Beatrice! You are so welcome!
K x
I have always felt really beautiful and confident. It’s such a blessing that I’ve had my whole life. But I suddenly gained a ton of weight when I turned 40 and now my confidence is slipping. I know how harshly the world judges overweight people; according to society the worst thing you can be is fat. So I find that my confidence is not where it used to be and that’s freaking me out.
So, do I think I will be happier thin? No, because I’m actually pretty happy now. But I want to feel really comfortable and confident in my skin. I miss that!
Hi Hildie!
What a great comment! I love your positive attitude!
And I hear you with the self confidence.
It sounds like the main change you’ve experienced as a result of the weight gain is a shift in mindset. If you think people are judging you for being bigger than you used to be they probably are and you can’t control that, but you CAN control how you feel about yourself and your body. I think the most important thing is to live your life in a way that makes you happy. The lack of confidence you feel in your body is something you learn, not something you were born with. So if you want to turn your body and your relationship with food around, then try setting up some new habits for success. Spend MORE time believing you are strong, capable and more than able to handle your life without using chocolate cake as a crutch and LESS time reacting to everyones opinions and expectations (especially your own).
Sending you so much love!
K x