How to win at being you
How to win at being you…
I’ve played many roles in my life… most of them fake and phoney. I was afraid to let MY light shine incase somebody else’s light wen’t “poof!” and was gone faster than a BETA video recorder (don’t remember what that is? It’s probably a good thing.)
So, why did I do it? For the same reason we do most of the dumb-ass stuff we do in our lives… Because I wanted to be liked.
I was prepared to play small, to smile sweetly and simply agree with others, even when things were being said and done that I didn’t agree with.
So, I played the game. Everyone around me was happy, but I was miserable inside.
“Do you like my new outfit?” someone would ask… “SURE!” I’d reply, smiling sweetly, all the while thinking to myself, well… you look like the entire cast of The Muppets threw up on you, but I’ll tell you what you want to hear, if it will get you to like me.
If you’re every going to be comfortable in your body, you first have to be comfortable being YOU.
Here’s how it’s done…
1 OWN YOUR HOTNESS
Here’s the thing with the elusive “hot factor”… we ALL have it. But not all of us OWN that we have it. As a women (and a hot one, at that) you were born with an inherent sex appeal that makes you a special kind of fabulous. Now, does that mean you need to get around in Madonna bras and barely there dresses? Uh, not unless you want to? Otherwise, just knowing that you are beautiful, inside and out, is enough. When you believe it, others will as well.
2 TELL THE TRUTH… ALWAYS
Telling the truth means being prepared to be YOUR true, authentic self; to walk YOUR path… the path that feels right for you and your Soul, regardless of what other people say, do, think or throw at you (lemon pies included). This is YOUR journey. And if you can’t be honest as you travel it, what’s the point? Will everybody clap and cheer for you? Probably not. But I can tell you this… if you lose “friends” along the way (and let me assure you, you probably will), then just smile sweetly and wave buh-bye, honey because they were never going to be there for the long haul anyway.
3 LUUURVE YOURSELF
The MOST important thing is to love YOURSELF. How do you do that when you can barely utter a grunt as you assess yourself in front of the bathroom mirror each morning? Well, for starters, you can stop THAT little practice and replace it instead with a smile. Or at least a non-grunty look of semi approval. Loving yourself should be the most natural thing in the world, but sadly, it has become something we all have to work at. I implement daily practices to remind myself of my awesomeness such as prayer, meditation, yoga and even skincare cleansing rituals. Every act of kindness is an act of love. I’m cheering you on.
You are a unique, shining being of absolute glorious beauty. Nobody has the right to make you feel anything less.
So today, when you look in the mirror, give yourself a wink and a flirty little smile and know that you’re okay EXACTLY as you are right now. This is YOUR journey. And if some days end with a green smoothie and others end in a chocolate frenzy, it’s okay. It’s just something you DID. It’s not who you ARE.
Sending you big love!