All of my life, I only ever wanted one thing…
To eat a never ending supply of M&M’s and have skinny thighs
But I might as well have been asked Santa Claus to fill my garden with “money trees” because the combination of eating M&M’s and having skinny thighs is just not bio-chemically possible.
The problem that we face is of course, that the fantasy of how those M&M’s (Reece’s Peanut Butter Cups, Haagen Dazs, Dominos Pizza) will taste in our mouth is more alluring than the actual food itself. In fact, sometimes I was so disappointed with the taste of the chocolate once I ate it, I would end up in a chocolate consumption frenzy, searching for the ecstatic flavour that I was sure must be in there (I just needed to eat a little more, right?)
So how do you beat the self sabotage?
By busting out some new beliefs.
1 Don’t make it harder than it needs to be
Your greatest asset is your mind. And your greatest enemy? Yup, you guessed it… your mind.
You don’t need a team of clinical experts from the Dr Oz show telling you how many fat grams, carbs, points and calories you should eat each day. You just don’t. The fact is, our bodies had this whole weight loss gig under control loooong before the “experts” ever came on the scene and if you’ll listen, just for a moment, you will find that your body already knows exactly what you should be eating AND how much of it you should eat. Don’t eat food that you hate just because you think that you “should”. Don’t exercise like a crazy person unless:
a) you like it
b) it makes you happy, or
c) you are a crazy person
Because I can assure you, trying to “punish” the fat off your body with extreme workout routines will never work. Do what makes you happy in an amount that you enjoy. And remember, you can’t hate your way to happiness.
2 Make your success a habit
Nobody is born, hating themselves. The lack of love you feel for your body is something you learn, not something you were born with. So if you want to turn your body and your relationship with food around, then you need to set up some new habits.
Decide to make small changes everyday. Start slow. Give yourself time to not only learn some new, empowering habits, but to UNLEARN the old, crusty ones. What you believe about yourself and your ability DOES matter. Decide that allowing yourself the freedom to stare at your body in the mirror without hurling abuse at your unwitting reflection is something you’re worthy of, NOT something you need to EARN.
Spend MORE time believing you are strong, capable and more than able to handle your life without using chocolate cake as a crutch and LESS time reacting to everyones opinions and expectations (especially your own).
3 Feel the fear and do it anyway
Does all of this mean that now you will step into a magical new life filled with butterflies and rainbows and you will miraculously never crave ice cream again? Uh… no. But it does mean that when you feel the resistance, the struggle, the self doubt and the “I don’t wanna” syndrome, you put on your big girl pants and you do it anyway. Even when it doesn’t feel good. Even when it hurts. You do it. And you do it because you KNOW, deep in your heart, that you DESERVE it. You DESERVE to live in a body that you love and appreciate. You DESERVE to be able to sit next to a chocolate cake without wishing you could roll around in it, naked. You DESERVE to be happy, free and NOT SCARED OF FOOD.
You deserve that.
So tell me, do you believe you deserve to live a life free of diet drama?
Or does just a teeeeny little part of you scared to end the struggle?
Let me know in the comments below 😉
Sending you big love,
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