Does Skinny Equal Beautiful?

Social media pages should come with one of those annoying pop up warnings…

“Proceeding to view this page may induce high levels of chocolate consumption, feelings of inadequacy, and a subconscious affirmation that you, your body and your life is a piece of crap; to which we will respond by selling you products that you don’t need to solve the problems that you don’t have. Enjoy your user experience”.

You’re convinced that once you lose those pesky five, ten or fifty kilos, Chris Hemsworth will land on your doorstep and the two of you will skip off into the sunset, eating Doritos and be deliriously happy for evermore, am I right?

But seriously… does skinny equal beautiful?

Real women come in all shapes and sizes. Who decides what is hot and what is not? And while we’re on it, what’s up with this “real women have curves” thing? Do you have a vagina? You’re a beautiful woman. And even if you don’t have a vagina, but you IDENTIFY as a woman, gurl, werk your fierce self coz you’re beautiful and all woman.

Beauty, just like sexuality, does not need to be a BIG DEAL. It’s all in how you choose to view it.

If you’ve ever eaten ice cream in your life you probably have cellulite. It’s ok. So do I.

If you’ve ever lost and gained weight a few times you probably have stretch marks. It’s ok. So do I.

Body not in perfect proportion? That’s cool. I’m the same.

The difference is I know that these features do not make me any less of a beautiful woman than the perfect size 8 with her perky boobs and Beyoncé butt.

It’s called variety.

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Did you know that up to 98% of your thoughts are repetitive?

That means the BS self talk about how you can’t control yourself around food and you’re too fat is the same BS you told yourself yesterday and the day before that and the day before that.
So what does a beautiful woman do to beat those BS thoughts? Think about it… you will always think, do, act in the way that is EASIEST for you (pretty smart, right?) And we do this because change is, well, scary. And uncomfortable. And did I say scary? But it’s NOT hard.

The Key to reaching your natural weight and falling in luuurve with your sexy-ass self is simple…

Ask yourself, are you committed to yourself, or the stories that are preventing you from truly BEING yourself?

Does the REAL you want to eat donuts and watch Real Housewives all night? Or are you doing it to numb out from the day? Does the REAL you want to cry? Scream? Roll on the floor with laughter? Then DO that.

Remember, you can’t receive what you don’t respect. That’s it. It’s no more complicated than that.

So, what would it take for you to end the battle with food and your body? Why would you want to avoid getting support and is that fear strong enough to hold you back from your dreams?

I’m a big believer that the only person who can change your life is you. And I also believe, you’ve got what it takes.